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Toxic People In Your Life?- Here’s How To Remove Them.

December 18, 2017 by Lynda Kenny 4 Comments

Toxic People In Your Life?- Here's How To Remove ThemToxic People In Your Life?- Here’s How To Remove Them.

Toxic people can be all around us.  They can even be part of your friends and family circle.  Without you not always knowing it, they can have a devastating effect on your mental well being.

There are effective ways to remove toxic people from your life. Follow my tips to prevent them from dragging you down ever again.

I got a lot of ideas for this post from The Law Of Attraction Website.  A site well worth visiting.

1. Toxic People Rarely Change

One thing we can’t do is force toxic people, to change.  Most of them are wrapped up in their own problems and needs.   Deep down we often feel we can help these people to change for the better.  What you will find is you can’t and you become frustrated more and more trying to.

If you decide today to stop trying to change them you will find it much easier to move on.

2. Set Some Personal Boundaries

Toxic people demand your time constantly.  You can find yourself spending all of your time trying to please them.   YOU Decide what you will put up with what you won’t. This includes family and friends.

If things aren’t going well and you’re feeling drained with their demands, go through your own personal boundaries and make sure you stick to them.   Manage your own time and don’t allow them to manage it for you.

3. There’s Always A Dramadrama

People who are known as toxic create the drama in their live.  The thing is, they have a habit of dragging you into their dramas.

Its usually for attention.  Decide, however guilty you might feel, NOT to allow yourself to be drawn into their daily dramas.  I know thats easier said than done but your own sanity depends on it.  You can’t solve all their dramas, they’re  mostly self inflicted anyway.

4. Whats The Answer

People who are toxic in their behaviour can cause you sadness, anger and stress.

If you allow it to, your time will be all consumed with their problems.

Concentrate on your own mental well being and stop trying to analyse their behaviour.  Its a waste of your time and it will drain you of energy.

I have sometimes spent time trying to analyse someone else’s behaviour and driven myself nuts doing it.

5. Know Who YOU Are

Most toxic people will do their utmost to point out your flaws, making you feel bad.  They will use your perceived flaws to criticise you, often to other people as well.

You can rid yourself of this happening and the feelings it arouses in you by getting to know who you are and what makes you tick. Be aware of your strengths and weaknesses and commit to self improvement and personal development.  Accept what you’re good at and what you’re not so good at.

Believe in yourself and be proud of who you are, warts and all.

Next time anyone tries to criticise you unfairly with your “so called flaws”, you will be stronger inside and no longer allow their opinion manipulate you.

toxic person6. Projection – Understand What This Is.

If we allow it, other people can have power over our emotions.  You need to know and remember when they are hurting you, its not really you they are seeing.  Its the hateful side of themselves that they see.

What they are doing is projecting all those things on to you.  They are ridding themselves of those bad feelings by projecting them on to you instead.

Its too painful to admit the things they hate about themselves, so all that self hatred is coming your way, making you feel like crap.

Recognise what this is and when its going on, it lessens its power over you.

7.  They Wont Like This

When a toxic person notices that you’re not allowing them to control and manipulate you any more, they will be angry.  They may try even harder to get under your skin.

Don’t give in.  Teaching a person that their behaviour is unacceptable and wont be tolerated anymore is going to help them in the long run.

Dont rise to any arguments, giving them more reason to carry on.

8.  Look After Yourself

Constant conflict, criticism and daily dramas can have a devastating effect on your energy, time and general well being.  It can sometimes consume your life if you don’t find a way out.

How about using that energy and time for YOU instead?  Spend more time cultivating more positive relationships with other people.  People who are more positive and have a healthier outlook on life.

If its family members or close friends who’re toxic, it can hurt like mad.  For your own sake though, you have to remove them from your life if they are affecting you in a negative way.

There will be others in your life who make you feel good, those who value you and care about you.  Those are the relationships you should be concentrating on more.

I hope the tips I have provided today help you out. Please feel free to leave a comment below and let me know if you got some  benefit.

Thanks to Katherine Hurst from The Law Of Attraction Website for inspiring this blog post.

Lynda Kenny

Lynda KennyBusiness/Life Coach, Entrepreneur and Author

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  1. Billy Young says

    December 18, 2017 at 09:46

    A very good article Lynda. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it.

    I’ve actually lost friends over the years by not allowing them to control me or manipulate my time. And the thing is, I tell many friends that I don’t takes things personally or hold it against anyone, but they still seem to get upset regardless.

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    • Lynda says

      December 18, 2017 at 12:04

      Thanks so much for commenting Billy. I agree no matter what you say to some they get offended. You have to do what’s right for your peace of mind and not allow others to affect your life in a negative way

      Reply
  2. KIM Darnes says

    December 18, 2017 at 14:01

    Very good article. I have a rule that if I won’t put up with drama, rudeness, manipulation and constant moaning in my home life, then I won’t in my social and business life either. Its hard to draw boundaries when you are a giving person by nature, but it is vital to do so for inward peace when you see he same destructive behaviour over and over again. It is draining and toxic.

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    • Lynda says

      December 18, 2017 at 17:17

      You’re so right, you have to do things for peace of mind and you’re own well
      Being. I know it’s not easy but sometimes nexessary. Thanks so
      Much for commenting Kim. I appreciate it

      Reply

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