Toxic people can be all around us. They can even be part of your friends and family circle. Without you not always knowing it, they can have a devastating effect on your mental well being.
There are effective ways to remove toxic people from your life. Follow my tips to prevent them from dragging you down ever again.
I got a lot of ideas for this post from The Law Of Attraction Website. A site well worth visiting.
1. Toxic People Rarely Change
One thing we can’t do is force toxic people, to change. Most of them are wrapped up in their own problems and needs. Deep down we often feel we can help these people to change for the better. What you will find is you can’t and you become frustrated more and more trying to.
If you decide today to stop trying to change them you will find it much easier to move on.
2. Set Some Personal Boundaries
Toxic people demand your time constantly. You can find yourself spending all of your time trying to please them. YOU Decide what you will put up with what you won’t. This includes family and friends.
If things aren’t going well and you’re feeling drained with their demands, go through your own personal boundaries and make sure you stick to them. Manage your own time and don’t allow them to manage it for you.
People who are known as toxic create the drama in their live. The thing is, they have a habit of dragging you into their dramas.
Its usually for attention. Decide, however guilty you might feel, NOT to allow yourself to be drawn into their daily dramas. I know thats easier said than done but your own sanity depends on it. You can’t solve all their dramas, they’re mostly self inflicted anyway.
4. Whats The Answer
People who are toxic in their behaviour can cause you sadness, anger and stress.
If you allow it to, your time will be all consumed with their problems.
Concentrate on your own mental well being and stop trying to analyse their behaviour. Its a waste of your time and it will drain you of energy.
I have sometimes spent time trying to analyse someone else’s behaviour and driven myself nuts doing it.
5. Know Who YOU Are
Most toxic people will do their utmost to point out your flaws, making you feel bad. They will use your perceived flaws to criticise you, often to other people as well.
You can rid yourself of this happening and the feelings it arouses in you by getting to know who you are and what makes you tick. Be aware of your strengths and weaknesses and commit to self improvement and personal development. Accept what you’re good at and what you’re not so good at.
Believe in yourself and be proud of who you are, warts and all.
Next time anyone tries to criticise you unfairly with your “so called flaws”, you will be stronger inside and no longer allow their opinion manipulate you.
If we allow it, other people can have power over our emotions. You need to know and remember when they are hurting you, its not really you they are seeing. Its the hateful side of themselves that they see.
What they are doing is projecting all those things on to you. They are ridding themselves of those bad feelings by projecting them on to you instead.
Its too painful to admit the things they hate about themselves, so all that self hatred is coming your way, making you feel like crap.
Recognise what this is and when its going on, it lessens its power over you.
7. They Wont Like This
When a toxic person notices that you’re not allowing them to control and manipulate you any more, they will be angry. They may try even harder to get under your skin.
Don’t give in. Teaching a person that their behaviour is unacceptable and wont be tolerated anymore is going to help them in the long run.
Dont rise to any arguments, giving them more reason to carry on.
8. Look After Yourself
Constant conflict, criticism and daily dramas can have a devastating effect on your energy, time and general well being. It can sometimes consume your life if you don’t find a way out.
How about using that energy and time for YOU instead? Spend more time cultivating more positive relationships with other people. People who are more positive and have a healthier outlook on life.
If its family members or close friends who’re toxic, it can hurt like mad. For your own sake though, you have to remove them from your life if they are affecting you in a negative way.
There will be others in your life who make you feel good, those who value you and care about you. Those are the relationships you should be concentrating on more.
I hope the tips I have provided today help you out. Please feel free to leave a comment below and let me know if you got some benefit.
Thanks to Katherine Hurst from The Law Of Attraction Website for inspiring this blog post.
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