Finding It Hard To Get Time Alone?
Time alone, especially in a busy household can be a big challenge for anyone.
Many people are dividing their time between children, partners, parents, colleagues and work and it’s a wonder how we can steal some time for ourselves.
Mix that up with some guilt too. Especially where women are concerned. For some reason, we feel guilty about enjoying time alone when everyone else wants a piece of us.
Finding the time for you has a lot of personal benefits. It improves your productivity, gives you time to think, enhances concentration and your ability to think more deeply.
How Do You Succeed In Finding Time Alone.
There are certain times of the day that you can do. For instance, you can wake up a little earlier and use that first 30-60 minutes. I know, I know, its hard getting up early as it is and you might not be a morning person.
How about during a lunch break if you work?
Or all those times you’re on your phone, what about giving up 5-10 minutes of that?
If you have already tried those things and they didn’t work, you need to really look at your daily schedule and see if some things can be prioritized and others left out.
For instance, are you busy working AND taking care of all the domestic things a household demands?
Is there anything you can delegate to someone else?
What I Did
When I was working long hours in a previous career I couldn’t keep up with doing housework as well. So I hired someone to come in three hours a week to clean the house. I can’t tell you how good that was and even all these years later; I still have help in the house.
When I was a manager, I used to think no one could do jobs like me.
I was wrong and as soon as I learned more about delegating tasks to other people everything changed for the better.
Not only did it free up some time for me but it gave other people value and they appreciated I trusted them enough to do it.
Why not begin with stealing small amounts of time if hours are too much?
Even 5-10 mins can make all the difference.
In fact I have exercises that can be done in batches of 2-3 minutes at a time. I share them in my coaching strategy sessions. If you are interested in one of those FILL IN THIS QUESTIONNAIRE and lets take it from there.
Guilt Can Stop You
Women more often than not see themselves as responsible for taking care of everything and everyone.
Finding time for you should not be something you ever feel guilty about.
If you do, it gives a good role model to your loved ones. It also keeps you happier, healthy and fulfilled.
If you are in a better frame of mind all round, everyone will benefit.
Your family will benefit, colleagues and most of all YOU.
It should be seen as preventative to being burnt out, stressed and overwhelmed. AND you will become all those things if you don’t find time for you.
Will Your Family Rebel?
If you have always been available to your family then when youre not on occasions there may be some resistance.
I don’t know about you but at one point I used to think I couldn’t even go to the bathroom in peace.
Reassure everyone that you are still there for them but if they want you there for the long term you have to also take care of yourself.
Creating a new habit in the house will soon be accepted, just like the habit of you always being there has.
They will get used to it.
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