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The Royal Wedding: Judgment Or Opinion?

May 21, 2018 by Lynda Kenny Leave a Comment

The Royal Wedding: Judgment Or Opinion?The Royal Wedding: Judgment Or Opinion?

You might ask what the Royal Wedding has to do with being judgmental.

Over the weekend when the Royal Wedding was on there were some really positive comments about the service, the guests, what the bride wore, what the groom wore and a whole lot more.

However, there were many negative comments as well. Now I know that EVERYONE is entitled to his or her opinion. That’s life.

Having an opinion is one thing. Heavily criticizing and being offensive is another.

When we judge someone on our own values and feelings it says more about us as a person and today I wanted to focus on how we should strive to be as a human being.

This is not an article about the Royal Wedding. It’s about how we can avoid being ‘THAT” person who criticizes everything based on THEIR values.

If you are in business you are often encouraged to put yourself “out there”. You are told not to be shy, not to compare yourself to others and be proud of who you are.

When we see open criticism of someone like Meghan Markle doing just that on her wedding day, it not nice to witness.

Judgment Or Opinion?

Lets begin with the difference between a judgment and an opinion.

Firstly, we are quick to be annoyed at other people when our own opinions are challenged.

The ONLY difference between a judgment and an opinion is evidence.

Is there evidence to support that opinion?

On social media we are going to be criticized for what we say. After all, we put ourselves out there. We express how we feel and of course, people are going to judge us on what we say.

The one thing we CAN’T do on Social Media is express the tone of our voice. So, we have to use the right words to express how we are feeling.

I have often expressed an opinion myself on how powerful words can be.

We have to use the right words to express our tone. It’s the only way, when we are texting or writing.

How Would You Feel?

You’re going out for a special occasion. You have known about it for months and spent so much time looking for the right outfit.

On the day itself you take a load of selfies and have other photos taken. You put them on social media.

How would you feel if you saw a ton of comments saying how awful your outfit was?

What about Business?

You might have spent hours on a piece of training or some time thinking of what to post on Social Media.

When you do, you receive a ton of negative comments. Comments that make you feel small and worthless, wondering why you bother.

I am using some extreme examples here. I wanted to make the point that every time any of us makes a judgment and criticizes someone else it says more about us than it does about them.

Quite often we find satisfaction in seeing others fail or make mistakes because it makes us feel better than “they” are.

One psychologist put it very well, when he said:

“Those who are judgmental are invested in ONE-UP-MANSHIP”

Think Twice

Before complaining, moaning and criticizing someone think about how you would feel.

Think about the effect on someone else if your criticisms are in public.

Check out if what you are saying is a fact or a personal opinion.

Most of all spend more time on your development as a person.

Become someone who is self aware, kind to others and keen to do their business with a servant heart.

If you enjoyed todays post, The Royal Wedding: Judgment Or Opinion?, I would love to hear from you.  Drop me a comment below.

LYNDA KENNY

 LYNDA KENNY

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Helping Women Climb The Ladder To Their Dreams

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