Assumptions about other people, situations and circumstances are something we have to stop making. It makes us judgemental and liable to get it wrong in more ways than one. Every single one of us has a perspective on something and quite often its different to someone else.
I can think of countless situations when I was a Social Worker where the wrong assumptions were made when assessing a family. I had to learn quickly to be objective rather than subjective.
Let me tell you what sparked off this post today.
I saw a post on Facebook yesterday where someone said “Salaries are paid by employers who are intent on stealing your dreams”. Now hows that for an assumption?
When I was an employer that was the last thing on my mind. I employed people because the business needed them for a specific purpose.
I coach people to help them with their personal and professional growth. When I hear statements like the one above, it confirms to me more than ever that its something a lot of people need.
Assumptions From (Some) Entrepreneurs/Home Business Owners/Marketers
Having a job is a bad thing.
Since when does having a job become a bad thing. What on earth would we do without Doctors, Nurses, Firefighters, Armed Forces etc.? Don’t get me wrong, being an entrepreneur with your own business is fantastic BUT its not for everyone. We shouldn’t ridicule those who choose to stay employed. In fact, many people love their jobs and don’t want to do anything else. I agree there are many people in dead end jobs that feel stuck and see no way out. However, many people don’t feel that way either.
Hence, making assumptions about anyone who has a job is wrong. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT. We also all have a right to choose and NOT be judged by ANYONE.
People Are Stupid If They Don’t Join My Company
I have seen countless posts on Facebook where people have actually said this.
They may also say things like:
“get off your bum and get some work done”. OR
“Stop moaning and stop working to create someone else’s dream”. OR
“Stop telling me you can’t afford it”
I could give you many more but you get the gist right?
When I was a single parent and broke, if I said I couldn’t afford it, I COULDN”T. Sometimes I had no money to feed my kids never mind anything else.
Many marketers make the assumption that this is a way of getting out of joining them in their company. In some cases this might be true. My mission today though is to urge you NOT TO MAKE ASSUMPTIONS. Dig a bit deeper and get to know who you’re talking to and find out a bit more.
Don’t Go To College/University, its a waste of time
How many parents seriously tell their children not to go to college or university? Getting a degree or higher education is not for everyone. However, it is for many and again, without a degree there wouldnt be doctors, nurses etc. In fact, going to University changed my whole life. It began a journey where If I hadn’t gone, life would be very different for me now.
Not be repeating myself but we come back to assumptions again. We shouldn’t assume that because university or college didn’t help one person it doesn’t help another.
Sitting In Judgment
When we make assumptions we judge people based on our own values and beliefs. Everyone should be respected for their choices and not have them criticised because they aren’t in alignment with our own.
I know its only human that we all do it at times, its part of our nature. However, when we are more aware of when we are doing it we can take more care not to make any assumptions about anyone.
None of us has a right to judge anyone in a negative way. Or to assume we know everything there is to know about someones circumstances.
I apologise if this post seems a bit of a rant today. The post I saw yesterday sparked me off.
Next time you are dealing with someone, give yourself a check and make sure you aren’t making the wrong judgement or assumption about them
My post, The Reasons You Gotta Stop Making Assumptions is meant to give value or a benefit in some way to you. If it did I would love to hear from you. Drop me a comment below and share your thoughts.
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