How To Master Your Influence

Influence is a thing you must master if you want to attract more people to you, your life and your business. Brendon Burchard believes that increasing your influence is more science than an accident.

So, how do you master your influence over others so you can gain what you desire in your life? Below, I share what Brendon calls “influence levers”. These are strategies you must include and master to influence ALL relationships, both at home and at work.

Ask yourself…. Do people have trust in you? It begins at home.

Six Influence Levers

Intention Cues

Our intentions really matter. For instance, how do we want to be perceived? How do we want to show up?

Think about your partner/your spouse. – How do you want to treat them? Or do you just react?

How about your work colleagues, your team members, your friends?

Decide what your intentions are , implement them and then set up some cues to remind you.

In ALL of your relationships, what 3 words would other people use to describe you. What would you want them to be?

Choose the top 3 and put them in your phone. Set some reminders and then every so often in the day, they will pop up.

If you don’t want to use your phone, use post it notes around the house or your office.

You might also consider having a special word for a specific person. It will remind you how to be.

Set your cues for all your relationships, personal and professional.

Energy Triggers

If you are in a team, your energy levels matter. Setting some reminders here to lift your energy will improve your levels through out the day. Brendon Burchard says in his trainings says every time he closes a door, it triggers off his feelings of having more energy. What could you use?

We all need something to help us to re-energise during the day. Setting little reminders or cues will help.

Raising your energy will help with your positivity and presence in your everyday life.

Positive Framing

I want to ask you if you begin all your conversations in the positive? I have been encouraged that the first two mins of any conversation should be. Its too easy to point out all the bad things. For instance, in our relationships, how many times do we begin talking to our spouse by pointing out what we are unhappy about?

Mend the starts to all your conversations.

Bouncing Your Conversations

If you are having conversations with someone, you can ask questions and go deep. Then after 4-5 questions you can interrupt by changing the subject slightly. For instance, if you are enjoying a meal, you can interrupt by saying “this tastes really good, is yours ok?” Its all about changing the emotional tone of your conversations.

Brendon describes this as having a dance in your chats which can be applicable to all your relationships. It takes the heat off sometimes and brings a bit of joy into the conversations.

Extending Benefits

The most important thing you can do is this. If you are selling anything, you must learn about it. Then you can talk about the benefits to them and how it can extend beyond them to other people.

Example: “Hey, if you do this you will ………..

“Do you think your teacher would be pleased if you did better at your exams?” ( something you could say to a child)

If you are selling a product – talk about how it would be good for the family, the industry. Take it beyond them by extending the benefits.

Goodbyes

What emotions or feelings do you want people to have when they leave you? Its important not to leave anyone on bad terms.

Make it your intention to leave any conversation on a positive note. Endings really matter and you will feel much better about yourself if you do this.

Summary

Everything I have shared today comes from my training in High Performance Academy with Brendon Burchard. He is a big influence on me right now. I will become a pupil of his next month when I train to become A High Performance Coach. Brendon only takes 200 per year for this training so I feel very honoured indeed to be one of them.

More importantly, it will allow me to bring more value to my clients in a coaching capacity.

The above points, if you practice them, will improve your interaction and influence when talking with others. That can be at home, work, on the internet, in fact in any situation where you are interacting. Your relationships should be fun, open, supportive and effective and its well worth working on yourself to make improvements.

I hope you got some benefit from todays post, How To Master Your Influence. Please feel free to leave me a comment below the blog to give me some feedback.

Many thanks to Brendon Burchard for his insights and great trainings.