How to be yourself sounds simple enough doesn’t it but you’d be surprised how many of us don’t show the real “us”.
I have done dozens of posts on Social Media encouraging people on how to be themselves.
Yet, despite that, I know sometimes I haven’t shown the “real me”.
Recently I was at a Mastermind Retreat with Ray Higdon in Florida. Part of what we did was have mini hot seats where members get up front and share their business. We are encouraged to share our story, what our wins are, our challenges and goals.
When it was my turn I was a bit nervous but clear on what I wanted to say. However, it appeared I had come across as not confident and members were giving me advice about that. I didn’t want to sound defensive so I thanked everyone for their input.
My good friend, Soraya Goddard spoke up and basically said I had changed her life. She also said I had tons of confidence and to stop being polite to everyone and show them the real, no BS me. Soraya was in tears when she said this and I filled up as well.
After that I let people know who I really was. Someone who didn’t pussy foot around, who spoke her mind (with kindness) and didn’t suffer fools gladly. I swear a bit now and then as well. Basically, I wanted to attract people who wanted to go further NOT people who needed counselling or therapy.
Everyone in the room loved this and I started earning new nicknames, resulting in a hashtag #lyndaontherocks. Another one was #straightlynda. You get the gist.
I will be eternally grateful to Soraya for calling me out on this and making me aware.
Have you noticed, depending on where you are, how many “different hats” you wear, metaphorically speaking?
I used to wear a different hat at work, at home, with my kids etc.
It would always depend on the situation I was in. However, the true and real me was always present.
With the onset of social media and the way we want to attract new business that, in my opinion, became a harder thing to do.
For one thing, the written word is powerful and if its used in the wrong way it can be mis-interpreted.
Thats why videos are a great way of people getting a better feel for us.
Sometimes though, when we are trying to impress people, we can unconsciously pretend to be someone we aren’t.
Maybe we think others won’t like us if we are truly ourselves? Or “faking” who we are will get more people to like us more.
I found this on a website called Essential Life Skills:
- Be who you are, be your genuine self
- Follow your own value system and common sense
- Listen to the advice of others, but make up your own mind
- Recognize, appreciate, and develop your unique talents
- Stand up for what you believe in and you will gain respect
- Know that being ‘different’ is a gift
- Understand that you are enriching others by being yourself
I couldn’t have put it better myself. Plus, if you really are being the genuine you its such a relief. No longer do you have to pretend to be someone else.
If people don’t like you, so what. The right people WILL.
On my weekend away, I did a video on Facebook sharing my experience about being the real me. I promise you, what you see is what you get, lol.
I hope this post encourages you to be who you really are without putting on airs and graces. If you do you will enjoy things much more.
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Till the next time. All the best.
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